Personally, I only know a handful of girls from Africa who are married to black American men.So, wanting to know what my friends thought, I posted this question on my Facebook page: One of my clients, an African American male asked me an interesting question the other day: “WHY IS IT THAT IN THE U. ESPECIALLY, YOU DON’T OFTEN FIND AFRICAN WOMEN WHO MARRY OUTSIDE THEIR CULTURE, ESPECIALLY TO BLACK AMERICAN MALES?I have been dating an American-born Nigerian man for a few months now, and I care for him very much. I do know that we have a lot of problems communicating sometimes and I think it is because of cultural stuff.I have read lots of posts from other African American women who have the same fears as I do about the many "cousins" and family obligations that seem to monopolize the man's time, but in my case, I don't know what to think.I come from a very loving and supportive family, and I noticed that among his family. My cousin is married to a woman from Senegal, my friend's sister is married to a guy from Nigeria, and another friend of mine is married to a guy from the Congo. It was truly love and first sight for the both of us.I also come from a very educated family, same with his family. I met a African American woman who married a guy from Nigeria. I met a lot of African people in college because the Bay Area attracts people from various parts of West, Central, and East Africa. To me, this, and not the death of tupac/biggie, is the reason for hip hop's demise.Earlier this year, I believe in January, a client walked into my office, his name JD (I am sure he is going to read this article).For the record, JD is an African American male and I am an African female.
I am concerned because what I may be taking as offensive or that he is involved with other women may be culturally related to family obligations, and I want to believe the best of him. If they like you will for real, they have no problems with displaying it publicly. learn how to cook ofe egwusi with okporoko and pounded yam (he'll lick both fingers and toes together) 2. make sure he got akwukwo ikikere obodo unu before you move foward, otherwise ojiri gi wee nwee akwukwo ikikere.
I am planning a trip to nigeria very soon..been talking to a man there for nearly 2 years now..talk on the phone most everyday...either he calls me or I call him..we stay in constant touch..have become very close...have been talking about marriage..I should marry him while I am in nigeria..long would it take to get him access to come to the states to join me...we may decide to hold off for sometime..will just have to wait and see...by chance we do...i would be returning to nigeria to make the trip back with him....
This is my first post to this forum, and I am looking forward to meeting lots of people---both Nigerian and Non-Nigerian!
He was a first time client, so we began to chit chat as I worked on his papers.
We talked about travels and different people we had met; the conversation turned to marriage as I was obviously wearing my wedding ring; he asked if I was married to an African, I said “Yes, of course,” then he asked if my husband was a doctor. Oh well, he says quite a few African men he knows are doctors … That’s when he asked me why it is so uncommon to find African women who date or marry outside their culture, especially to African American men. I kinda agreed – African women do marry outside their race and culture, but it’s more common to find them married to Caucasian men.