Many want to know how they can go about getting to know someone and eventually getting married without getting hurt or compromising their faith.
At Focus on the Family, we've offered a range of resources and expert advice bringing biblical principles to bear in this area.
The best comparison between courting and purity vs intimate dating can be found on the Focus on the Family website entitled Boundless. For our purposes, there are three broad differences between what has been called Biblical courtship and modern dating. The Difference in Motive The first difference lies with the man’s motive in pursuing the relationship.
Scott Croft writes a simple yet Biblically sound teaching describing why courting is the best choice for Christians. Courtship ordinarily begins when a single man approaches a single woman by going through the woman’s father and then conducts his relationship with the woman under the authority of her father, family or church, whichever is most appropriate. Biblical courtship has one motive – to find a spouse.
In order to better understand this goal, below are some practical explanations to Biblical courting.
First, what is the difference between courting and dating, and is one more Biblical than the other?
Furthermore, there is vast individual variation between couples.
A man will court a particular woman because he believes it is possible that he could marry her, and the courtship is the process of discerning whether that belief is correct.
To the extent that the Bible addresses premarital relationships at all, it uses the language of men marrying and women being given in marriage. Selfishness is not what drives a Biblical marriage, and therefore should not be what drives a Biblical courtship.
It is the desire of the administration at Harvest Community School that high school families are in agreement and like-minded when it comes to the students and their desire to remain pure until marriage.
Although the specifics on how each family chooses to direct their child in this area may vary, the goal is the same.