Every interaction counts, from the conference room to G-chat to the soccer field.
Start seeing technology as a useful tool to get to know guys better. Before you know it, your convos will be getting offline."Instead of trying to micromanage your love life, create open spots for men, planned or unplanned, to fill," Massa says. Until you do, a guy may not even realize you're into him.
They're just becoming friends or friends with benefits." Technology may also be changing the way people interact with one another in person, allowing manners and graciousness to fall by the wayside.
Popular online dating website e Harmony urges daters to remember to be charming when meeting in person, as this has an incredibly positive impact on face-to-face interactions. Not fidgeting with your phone during a date, giving full attention to the other person, and being nice to your server will leave a lasting impression on your date and will help make you both feel more at ease.
Also, if the first thing you do when you open your Facebook page is type his name into the search bar, this falls into the category of over-stalking, too. (This actually happened to someone I know – very creepy). But with that said, there is a difference between doing you and just getting way too personal way too fast.
One of my favorite real-life examples of this was actually said to a friend of a friend; the boy she was on a date with said, “Yeah, I have ADHD, but I don't take medication.” Another good one?
“[Texting] is a great way to flirt, maybe give them a taste of who you are,” says dating coach Chrisler.
When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team.
For once, don't jam your calendar with plans a season in advance. Only when they finally went out to dinner together did they both realize their connection.
If following rules while playing the dating game seems stifling to you, instead consider the rules to be a protective measure.
"Dating can be very emotional," says Sherrie Schneider, co-author of The Rules series of dating advice books.