The literature on IPV among adolescents indicates that the rates are similar for the number of girls and boys in heterosexual relationships who report experiencing IPV, or that girls in heterosexual relationships are more likely than their male counterparts to report perpetrating IPV. stated that, unlike domestic violence in general, equal rates of IPV perpetration is a unique characteristic with regard adolescent dating violence, and that this is "perhaps because the period of adolescence, a special developmental state, is accompanied by sexual characteristics that are distinctly different from the characteristics of adult." Wekerle and Wolfe theorized that "a mutually coercive and violent dynamic may form during adolescence, a time when males and females are more equal on a physical level" and that this "physical equality allows girls to assert more power through physical violence than is possible for an adult female attacked by a fully physically mature man." Regarding studies that indicate that girls are as likely or more likely than boys to commit IPV, the authors emphasize that substantial differences exist between the genders, including that girls are significantly more likely than boys to report having experienced severe IPV, such as being threatened with a weapon, punched, strangled, beaten, burned, or raped, and are also substantially more likely than boys to need psychological help or experience physical injuries that require medical help for the abuse, and to report sexual violence as a part of dating violence.They are also more likely to take IPV more seriously.“If they had just been empowered and told ‘it’s ok to tell someone’ before maybe our story would have been different.” “Talk to people to if you are pulling away from your friends — let somebody know what’s going on,” Brad said.“Listen to your parents, or councilor, or pastor —just try to keep communication open don’t let them (significant other) be controlling because that’s what happened in our case.He was texting all the time wanting to know where she was. When he would come over to the house we’d open the door and he’d only sit on the porch with her and we’d watch them.We thought we were doing everything correctly and then everything happened.” “We give statistics on teen dating violence, then we do a few skits to try and get the kids involved and see different types of dating scenarios.The couple has been trying to keep Alyssa’s memory alive not only through a bill named for her which allows victims families to seek Victim Protection Orders (VPOs) against assailants.The bill went into effect last year.“At home we received a lot of mail that would end up in our mailbox, not addressed and what we found was (letters from) other young girls saying ‘We knew he was like this,’ ‘He did this to me,’ ‘He did that to me,’” she said.
Sexual violence in dating relationships is also a major concern.
By contrast, boys are more likely to report experiencing less severe acts, such as being pinched, slapped, scratched or kicked.
Girls are more likely to report committing less serious forms of IPV, including as a means of self-defense, whereas boys are more likely to report committing more severe acts of IPV, including threats, physical violence and controlling a partner.
Dating violence is violence that occurs within a dating relationship rather than, say, marriage; and dating violence is as much a problem for teenagers as it is for adults.
In fact, statistics show that one-in-three teenagers have experienced teenage domestic violence in a dating relationship.