There is no question that Tinder is a game-changer. Whether you believe in the ‘Tinder Generation’ or what Vanity Fair said recently about the dawning of a dating apocalypse, the dating landscape has changed and thanks primarily to dating apps like Tinder. Instead of hating all over Tinder and blaming it for my non-existent dating life, I decided to run a Tinder experiment instead.
When a piece of technology comes along and disrupts the way people do things, it needs time for people to work out what it all means. For backstory — I am 37 years old, female, white, Australian and I live in Manhattan. My male peers have an infinite pool to choose from, they can form relationships with younger women if they choose to and all is dandy. Only instead of everything being dandy like it is for my male counterparts, dating younger men when you’re my age comes with an age gap so vast, it is insurmountable. It doesn’t matter how mature, stable, interesting, whether you’re in your sexual prime, how ballerina-perfect your body is or how young you look, a younger guy might like to brag to his friends about bagging an older woman, And that’s the fucking truth.
According to Dataclysm, a new book by author Christian Rudder, an Ok Cupid analysis shows that men tend to go for younger women, but not much younger.
Blogger and computer science research assistant Randal Olson wanted to see how these findings related to the half-your-age-plus-seven-rule, which is an unofficial way of knowing if a person is too young or too old for you (illustrated below).
My question is: How young is too young for a man in a new relationship? Think of it this way, what do you offer a woman who is that much younger than you? (Not how she acts but what she wants out of life.) Yours could be the romance of the century, there are always exceptions and I do know at least one match made in heaven where there is a 24 year difference.
You can date someone as young as half your age plus seven years? It's no wonder that so many women feel that men their own age are too immature.
I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son.
For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son." My friend said, "Son, you're 18 years old, so I am going to tell you how you date.
For example, if a man is 38, the rule dictates that he can date as young as 26 years old, but anything lower falls into the creepiness zone.
he also created a second chart to compare how Rudder's data of the men of OK Cupid fell onto the creepiness zone.